Thursday, January 31, 2013

The Drinking Mirror: The Reflection for JH/MS Ministry

















         Somewhere along the way, in the past couple months you have probably seen an article, news report, or human interest piece on the "Drinking Mirror" App that was released in Scotland for  I-phones or Android phones.  There has been various different perspectives and some shots taken (no pun intended) at the whole thing.   If you don't know it is an app for you to take a picture of yourself and see what the effects that alcohol has on your appearance after 10 years.  It is an interesting idea and unique approach to a growing problem...both in the world but also inside the modern church.

        I am currently working on a new series on addictions and have been thinking a bit about some of this issue. I am not here to be controversial or start a debate, but I would like to simply do something that I don't do often here share an opinion.    I have sat through quite a few conversations, debates and other "confrontations" connected to the whole Christian liberties/ Christians drinking thing.  A variety of voices far bigger and louder than mine have weighed nationally, over the growing idea that alcohol should be accepted in Christian circles. It has become a push in the church as the millennial generation comes to prominence. It is a cultural debate and a spiritual debate for this up and coming generation.  It is not necessarily a discussion that is new, just one that is gaining new traction in the shifting sands of trying to be relevant.

     I will skip my personal background, up bringing, and education for the sake of time and space here.  I will simply state that I choose not to drink.  I am stuck in the middle in many ways with this whole debate both in my church, in my community, and even inside my own ministry. I would like to however here just throw out a couple thoughts and challenges for you as fellow JH/MS youth workers and anyone else that is doing ministry and happens to be reading this...

     We who work with JH/MS students have a high and holy calling, that is why I think we need to step back and take a hard look in our own "drinking mirror".  Think about 10 years from now- not at how we will look but ask "what are our students going to look like because of us?" Most of our students will be just making their way through the college years. This time of life , no matter what statistic you look at is a tough time spiritually. Drinking of course plays a huge part on college campuses, so that will be one more thing that they will have been deciding about.   So what is going on all the way back at the beginning of the transition into adulthood in JH/MS years. What are we choosing to teach or not teach that is going to influence them all the way into college? What are the expectations and standards that we set for ourselves, our family, and our staff that are going to set the expectations and standards for our students personal, spiritual lives for a long time, maybe permanently.  What are the "buzzed" and "social public" moments that we choose will set in motion a ripple that will go far beyond our own personal liberties or theological debates.

   SO... When we look in the mirror and look at what our life, our ministry, and our influence what do we want it to reflect. As a JH/MS Youth Pastor I choose not to drink, publicly or privately because: 

1. It is a BAD REFLECTION of MY WITNESS
2. It is a BAD REFLECTION of MY TIME
3. It is a BAD REFLECTION of MY MONEY
4. It is a BAD REFLECTION of MY BODY
5. It is a BAD REFLECTION of MY MINISTRY
and if even if one of those is true, it is wrong and defined as a "sin" for me as a leader(*James 3:1, Mark 9:42...)

       I am not looking for responses or comments, but if you would like to leave one feel free. I am sure there will be those that get offended or want a debate, that is not what this is about. This is not about YOU or your beliefs, freedom, and being culturally relevant. This is about the little brokenhearted 7th grade girl that goes home to an abused alcoholic dad...the 8th grade boy whose mom was killed by drunk driver...and trying to explain that "that situation is different?" This is about the students we are called to serve and this is about the students that are you called to LOVE. 


Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Teaching Video #8 :"WWJTXT-What Would Jesus Text?"

 
- PS. 19:14- "Lord, may the words of my mouth and the thoughts of my heart be pleasing in your eyes,You are my Rock and my Redeemer"
- Eph. 4:29- "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." 
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Lesson Idea: (*From: "Loud and Clear" Series)
What are you Transmitting?
Key Verses: Eph. 4:29
1. Transmit Loud & Clear w/ Our Body- I Cor. 6:19, Prov. 6:12-14
- Actions, Dress, Images/Photos
2, Transmit Loud & Clear w/ Our Attitude- Eph. 4:23-25, Phil 2:3-7
- Emotions, Respect, Reactions
3. Transmit Loud & Clear w/ Our Written Words-Prov. 17:27, Ecc. 12:10
- Texts, Posts, Tweets
Challenge:
Transit a life that honors and praise God: Eph. 5:19-20

Tuesday, January 29, 2013

News U Can Use: "Middle Schoolers' Act of Sportsmanship Goes Viral"

It was pure grit and determination that led seventh-grader Jared Stevens to the mat of his first wrestling match last Thursday.  His opponent, 12-year-old Justin Kievit, was there because his coaches thought he had the biggest heart on his team.

The way that the two boys, both from Brentwood, Tenn., conducted themselves on the wrestling mat has people from all over the world commending them as true sportsmen.

Jared, 13, who moved to Brentwood just one year ago from Florida, has cerebral palsy, a congenital disorder that leaves him wheelchair-bound and with the physical capabilities of roughly a six-month-old.  Still, Jared, who is a triplet, wanted to play sports like his brothers, and so he joined the wrestling team.
On Thursday, Jared got the chance to go to the mat in an exhibition match for his Sunset Middle School team against Justin, a student from Freedom Middle School who was picked for the face-off not because of his weight class or ability but because his coaches knew he would know what to do.
“Coach Mays [from Sunset Middle School] went to the other coach, Randi Stevens, [no relation to Jared] and asked him which kid had the kindest heart and the coach picked Justin out of the lineup,” Jared’s father, Phil Stevens, told ABCNews.com today.

A cellphone video that Stevens shot of the match and posted to YouTube for their family and friends to view has gone viral because of the way that Justin handled the match.  In the video, seen more than 200,000 times on YouTube and Facebook alone, the two competitors shake hands before Justin helps pull Jared’s arm over his own body so he gets pinned, giving Jared the win.

Jared, who helped coach the team before convincing his parents and coaches to let him compete, is a junior varsity wrestler, while Justin is a full-bodied seventh-grader and captain of his school’s varsity squad.
He said, ‘Justin was tougher than I thought.  He was pretty strong,’” Stevens said of his son.  “That’s the biggest part of this thing, how great a job Justin did.  That was just amazing.”

Jared, who was in school and not available for comment, is something of a local legend in Brentwood for his resilience both on the field and off.  He played in around three football games – in his wheelchair – last season and also helps coach his school’s basketball team.  He also attends classes and participates in activities with his peers through the school’s inclusion program.
That, his father says, makes the school district’s coaches, teachers and Jared’s fellow students the real legends.
“They’ve embraced Jared,” Stevens said.  “I’m dropping him off at practice like the other parents and the coaches are picking him up from there and supporting Jared’s desires to participate.”

“If the coaches were only concerned about winning, Jared wouldn’t play,” he said.  “For the coaches there, it’s about teaching these young kids sportsmanship and morals and characters.  To me, that’s the differentiator, having teachers and coaches willing to go beyond the scoreboard.”

Justin and his parents were unavailable for comment when reached today by ABCNews.com.  Stevens says the boys have not seen each other since the match but the two families plan to get together this weekend “to let the boys hang out and talk.”

That meeting will happen, of course, as long as it doesn’t conflict with Jared’s athletic practices, or the next thing he’s told his mom and dad he’d like to accomplish: becoming certified to scuba dive.

Friday, January 25, 2013

Ran-Dumb Youth Ministry Meme #16


Free Resouce #38: "Still Not Professionals" (e-book)


 Still Not Professionals: Ten Pleas for Today's Pastors is a celebration and extension of John Piper's Brothers, We Are Not Professionals. With two brief exhortations from Piper and eight others from veteran pastors, this short ebook aims to strengthen and challenge Christians in general, and pastors in particular, for the labor of everyday life and ministry. The contributors were asked to express their “heart of hearts” for fellow leaders. You'll find these chapters tap into profound human themes, in both the pastor and his flock, and will be of use, we hope, beyond the North American context of the contributors.\

An EPUB file is formatted for readers like the Nook, Sony Reader, and Apple iBooks (iPad, iPhone, iPod). A MOBI file is formatted for Kindle applications (this option works well on some mobile devices, and not so well on others).

CLICK HERE (to get it)

Thursday, January 24, 2013

JH/MS Ministry App?! #1: "JONGLA"


Good Stuff that can be come Great stuff if it is used for God Stuff!? Here is something new that might just be a sweet "JH/MS Specific Youth Ministry App"!? 

Great JH/MS alternative to "SnapChat" and a few others allowing student to express themselves in a more appropriate way (parent-friendly)?   

CHECK IT OUT AT: www.jongla.com 
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Here is a quick article from "TECH CRUNCH.COM" 
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WhatsApp, Viber, Yuilop, Facebook Messenger/Poke, Snapchat, and many, many others — the list of apps in the mobile social messaging space seems endless. But Finland’s Jongla thinks there’s room for one more. The company, whose legacy is in apps for feature phones, has re-booted with the launch of a youth-oriented and free social messaging app for iOS and Android (along with a HTML5 version), believing that the key to cutting through a noisy marketplace is personalisation. In version one of the app, this manifests itself through the ability to send animated virtual stickers, a fun and beefed up form of emoticons, which is also how the company plans to make money.

Like other mobile social messaging apps, Jongla is designed to circumvent the need to use SMS text messaging by piggybacking a user’s data connection to offer an Instant Messenger-like experience. Along with a nice design/UX, the app offers features such as syncing with the phone’s address book, the ability to send images directly from the phone’s camera roll to any contact, location sharing, and real-time feed back when a recipient is typing.

So far, so ‘me too’.

However, it’s the animated sticker feature, and personalisation in general, which Jongla hopes will help it stand out from the crowd and appeal to the 11-24 year old demographic that it’s targeting. At launch, a range of animated stickers are available, with more to be made available via an in-app store, including in-app purchasing of new stickers as a potential revenue stream. Whether or not this will be enough to make the app catch on, I’m not so sure, but then again I am squarely outside of Jongla’s intended audience.

To that end, Riku Salminen, COO of Jongla, says in a statement: “We’ve studied our target audience very closely and the ability to put their own stamp and identity on the products and services they use is pivotal. With our interactive ‘Stickers’, users can do this right now and soon more and more will be added”.
What that more will be will undoubtedly depend on how well Jongla’s stickers stick with users (pun intended). And as crowded as the market may be, there’s still a lot to play for, says the company — citing research by Juniper that suggests the number of Instant Messaging users will exceed 1.3 billion by 2016 and revenues from Application-to-Person (A2P) messaging will exceed $70b by 2016 and overtake Person-to-Person (P2P) SMS during the same year.

 crunchies2012y4
 

Wednesday, January 23, 2013

Game #24: "Cut the Rope: Live" (upfront game)


Like the other "Live" versions of popular video games that I have posted here- "Just Dance Live","Fruit Ninja Live", and couple different variations of "Angry Birds Live", comes my newest attempt at taking something that my JH/MS students love and bring it  to them live with...

CUT THE ROPE: LIVE!!!


Supplies:
20 Mashmallows
20 Pieces of String (3-4 foot long)
2 Pairs of Scissors
1 Table

Set Up:
Poke a hole through each marshmallow, run a piece of string though each and tie it.  Place all the marshmallows on the table in 2 groups of 10, with strings hanging off the end of the table. 
Ask for 4 volunteers, 2 teams of 2 people to come up to the front.  Ask one person from each team to stand by the table, while other player lays down face up in front of them

Playing the Game/Rules:
On "go" the player that is standing will turn around grab one string/mashmallow combo in their mouth.  Grabbing the end without the marshmallow in their teeth.  They are not allowed to use their hands to grab the string or marshmallow They will then turn around, dangle the marshmallow and string over their partner's mouth.  Without touching the string they must  CAREFULLY cut the string with the scissors and try to drop the marshmallow into their partner's open mouth below.

The player on the floor may not use their hands until they have caught the marshmallow in their mouth.  Only after they have eaten the marshmallow, may they use their hand to remove the string from their mouth.

The team that gets the most marshmallows in their mouths WINS!

* PLEASE!!! Ce careful with the scissors and "cutting"...thank you!!

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Inauguration Lesson Repost: "I Was Here" by Beyonce

*Originally Posted in August After Performance and Video at the United Nations.  Now with the Performance of this Song at the Presidential Inauguration. I Figured I would do a Quick Re-Share.  Use it this Week as a lesson with Your Group as part of One of Your Lessons!?

 
CLICK HERE to get lyrics
 

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Discussion Questions:
- What do you want to be remembered for when you die?
- Will your faith and Christ be part of what you are remembered for?
- Based on how you are living right now, would your faith and your relationship with Christ be what people remember?
- What is one thing (area, need, issue,...) that you would like to see gone from the planet before you die?
- What are you willing to do personally to see that it is? 

Read & Study
Matthew 25:14-30
- How do these verses fit with what Beyonce is singing?
- How do these verses not fit with what Beyonce is singing?
- How do these verses fit your life?
- Which servant do you feel you are currently?
Read & Study
Matthew 25: 31-46
- How do these verses fit with what Beyonce is singing?
- How do these not fit with what Beyonce is singing?
- What is it that the people are being judge for?
- Do you know what the difference between "Commit" & "Omit"?
- Are the people in the verses being judge for the sins they Committed or for the things the Omitted?

Challenge:
- Complete this sentence for yourself: "I was here and I ______________________________".
 

Monday, January 21, 2013

Top 10: "Youth Ministry-Based Reality Shows"

     Originally Posted Here as "Church Based Reality Shows" last March as one of my Monday morning weekly Top 10 Lists
     It is now in the current GROUP MAGAZINE, on news stands, Get your copy soon!  I have personally have been reading it for years.  Rick Lawrence and his staff are continue to do an outstanding job.  If you are new to youth ministry Group is one of those must have resources!! If you have been around a while, Group is continuing to keep up and keep fresh every issue. 
   All that to say... Here is your weekly Top 10: Youth Ministry Based Reality Shows...Again!


Monday Morning Inspiration: "Refocusing & Reviving Your Vision for Students"

Friday, January 18, 2013

Ran-Dumb Youth Ministry Meme #15


Free Media #32 : Vintage Church Resources


Vintagechurchresources.com 
has an easy to use interface where users can better browse the vast amount of resources. The majority of downloads from the previous site were from only the first 3 pages. The new design allows users to better search by keyword and allows for a la cart downloading, you can only download the files you want.



SITE INCLUDES:
1. High Resolution Jpegs
2. Smaller Design Files
3. Added Video Content and Message Outlines
4. Content Previews
5. Blog
6. Upgraded Content

CLICK HERE (to check it out for yourself)

Thursday, January 17, 2013

Free Resource #37"Ministering WITH Parents" (Webinar)


Jeremy Lee and the crew over at
PARENTMINISTY.NET are hard at work serving up a buffet of great resources for youth workers and parents alike.  Now they are about to offer their first ever Webinar with special guest Dr. Jim Burns.

They will be discussing "practical ways to partner with parents".  It is only one hour, but I think it will be well worth it.  I have heard Jim Burns speak numerous times over the years and he is always excellent.  So if my opinion means anything, I would say check it out and make the time on JAN. 24th 10:00am (central)! 

CLICK HERE (to register)

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

Free Game Resource: "Oneighty Jr. High Game Bundle"


A collection of 13 games and accompanying bumpers from the Seeds, Oneighty Jr. High Team and Church on The Move






Files Included:
- Wheel of Game Shows bumper
- Instructions
- Various slides

CLICK HERE (to get them ALL for FREE!)




Tuesday, January 15, 2013

Lesson Series: "MIND GAMES" (Choices)

A 3 week lesson series in CHOICES

Includes series outline (PDF) and editable HD Graphics (Photoshop, JPGs).






Field tested and Mom-Approved, here is another lesson series that I just taught my group right before Christmas.  A quick easy to teach series of 3 lesson on "choices" and "making good choices". It goes great with my other recent "Smarty Pants" lesson series on wisdom.

Through my new ongoing partnership with "Stuff You Can Use" it has now been beautifully digitally re-masted to bring out it original true beauty by the creative mind of Elle Campbell. It can be downloaded as a full package for you to use all together or use the 3 lesson as stand alone lessons.  It is an easy grab it and go OR take it and tweak it. 

The Series Outline Includes:
- key scripture passages
- big group activity
- upfront illustration
- video clip suggestions
- small group/discussion questions
- and MORE!!

Lessons Overview:
#1:Do We Have to Choose? (why we have choices)
#2.Sort of Tasty Choices? (discernment)
#3. Dealing with Bad Choices? (steps to change)

CLICK HERE (to get it now!)

 

Monday, January 14, 2013

Monday Morning Video: "Right Brained People in Church"

Top 10: That Awkward Moment... (#2)



THEY ARE BACK!! "AWKWARD MOMENTS #2... BROUGHT TO YOU BY MY LIFE. ALL VERY REAL MOMENTS, THAT WERE... OH SO VERY AWKWARD!!!  (Your Welcome!)






That Awkward Moment as a Youth Pastor When....

10. ....in the middle of that amazing point you are making in the lesson, you accidentally burp.

9....you are at the light with the windows down listening to gangster rap, and a youth parent pulls up next to you.

8. ...you realize 10 minutes into your lesson, you are going to be REALLY sick.

7....you are having a very serious counseling session with one of your students and they offer you a mint.

6. ...you doze off during the sermon in Sunday morning service, and you wake up to a student telling you, you are snoring to loud.

5. ...you wife says something funny and you laugh out loud in the middle of the senior pastor's prayer.

4.... you ask if there are any questions and a kid raises their hand and tells you you have a "bat in the cave"

3. ....you are walking out of a (*inappropriate) rated R movie and run into students and they ask you what you saw!

2. ...you are shopping for lingerie for your wife and a group of your youth group girls walk by...and just start giggling!

1.  ...you go to the bathroom and leave your mic on.

Friday, January 11, 2013

Free Media #31:"Countdown Pack"

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CLICK HERE (to get a pack of 4 countdowns for FREE from the awesome people at "Creation Swap")

Thursday, January 10, 2013

Free Resource #36 : "100 Thing to Watch in 2013" Presentation


Teaching Video #5: "First World Problems" (w/ grab-n-go lesson)

 
As we roll out of the Christmas Season and so many of our students are coming down from their American consumer high, maybe it would be a great time to start off the New Year with a reality check. Here is a great video to use to give your students some perspective called "First World Problems Anthem".

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Teaching Verse to Use With Video:
 1 Timothy 6:17-19"  As for the rich in this present age, charge them not to be haughty, nor to set their hopes on the uncertainty of riches, but on God, who richly provides us with everything to enjoy. They are to do good, to be rich in good works, to be generous and ready to share, thus storing up treasure for themselves as a good foundation for the future, so that they may take hold of that which is truly life."

Quick "Grab N Go" Teaching Outline:
1. Your ARE Rich!- Mark 10:25
2. Warning to the Rich: Prov. 16:18
     - Don't Prideful
     - Don't Put Your Hope in Riches, It Can Fade Fast
3. Instructions for the Rich:  Matt. 6:20
      - Do Good with It
      - Use It for Good
      - Be Willing to Give it Away
      - Store up Riches in Heaven not Here!
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Here is a Bonus Video: (a bit more funny, careful toward the end it uses the phrase- "shut the 'full cup' up!)  

Wednesday, January 9, 2013

Game #23: "Rubber Chicken Basketball"


Taking another classic game everyone knows and give it a good ran-dumb twist for your next youth group game with "Rubber Chicken Basketball"! 








Supplies:
- 1 rubber chicken (*preferably one with a noise maker)
- Basketball court with 2 hoops 
- Whistle
- 2 large sticks (broom stick or something similar)

Quick Explanation:
You will be playing basketball using a rubber chicken, which seems kind of obvious considering the name!? You will split into 2 equal teams.  The point of course is to score points by getting the chicken through the hoop. You can not of course dribble the chicken so the game becomes a game of passing and keeping possession of the chicken. 

Basic Rules: 
The rules are similar to those of Ultimate Frisbee (*see Ultimate Frisbee in 10 Simple Rules)
- Passing: players only have 2 steps and then they must pass of shoot

- Shooting: the chicken must touch the hoop in order for it to count as a "shot".

- Scoring: it is 1 point if the chicken goes through the hoop and gets stuck. 2 points if the chicken makes it through both the hoop and net.  A long whistle blow will signify a score.

- Possession: players must pass to each other after only 2 steps, if the chicken touches the ground it changes team possession. A whistle is blown when possession changes.

- Boundaries: there are no out of bounds, unless you would like to make them for your group.

- Fouls: (HA!..because it is a chicken!?): there is no grabbing, pushing, or tackling.  There is to zero physical contact otherwise there is a "jump chicken".  A "jump chicken" is called when there is a foul or 2 players of the opposing team are in possession of the chicken.  The chicken is tossed up between the 2 players in order to regain possession for the team.

- Large stick or Brooms:  to help you knock down stuck chickens


You get the idea...create rules that best fit your group, area, and time.  If you don't have a basketball court or basketball hoops.  Use large buckets, boxes, or even clean garbage cans.  It can also be played outdoors on a larger field more similar to Ultimate Frisbee, just with the goal being a large container or something similar! 

Enjoy and Play Safe!! 


Tuesday, January 8, 2013

Lesson Series: "SMARTY PANTS" (Wisdom vs. Knowledge)


A 3 week lesson series on the difference between wisdom and knowledge. 

Includes  outline (PDF) and editable HD Graphics (Photoshop, JPGs).



Fresh off the presses, here is a series of three lessons I taught my students just a few months ago.  Had a great time teaching it (*see below) and had an outstanding response among students, parents and leaders, so I am excited to be able to have it out there for others to use!! 

Through my new ongoing partnership with "Stuff You Can Use" it has now been recently redesign with new HD graphics and can be downloaded as a full package for you to use as a whole or individual lesson.... Edit it, remix it, make it your own for your students!! 

The Series Outline Includes:
- key scripture passages
- object lessons suggestions
- video clip suggestions
- small group/discussion questions
- and MORE!!

Lessons Overview:
#1: "Know it All"- Wisdom vs. Knowledge
#2: "Wise Up"- What is Wisdom?
#3: "Book Smarts"- Wisdom from the Bible 

CLICK HERE (to get it now!)

 















Monday, January 7, 2013

Monday Morning Video: "Ten Year Old Take-Over"


  
What would happen if we actually let Tweens, Jr. High and Middle School students run the church for the day?  What would change?  What would be better?  What would be worse?  Here is a video for you or for your leadership to watch, as advertising company "Grip Limited" for their 10 year anniversary let a group of 10 year olds take over 3 major ad campaigns for the day!  
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Quick Reflection...
We say all this crazy stuff like "the youth are the church of today...", but do we ever really let them be?  Seriously, I don't know about your church, but I would love to see one of my JH/MS boys rock the mic for a Sunday morning sermon. I actually already know the one to do it and he would be completely willing.  Here is even more crazy idea why not allow JH/MS and SH to be a part of some of the boards of the church? Throw a JHer and SHer in on a couple of committees have a "jr. deacon/elder"
What is the worst that could happen??

Comment Away, If You Like....I Would LOVE to Here Your Thoughts!! 

BONUS: "Top 10: Ways JH/MS Students Would Improve the Sanctuary" (for a few months ago)



Top 10: Your Youth Pastor is So BIG...

IT IS THAT TIME OF YEAR AGAIN!  THE HOLIDAYS ARE OVER, YOU OVER-ATE A BIT AND GAINED THOSE EXTRA POUNDS!  ALSO LETS BE REAL, THE PIZZA AND POP IS CATCHING UP WITH ALL OF US AS YOUTH PASTORS/ YOUTH WORKERS!!  

SO, HERE YOU GO (w/love)


 Your Youth Pastor is SO Big....

10. He doesn't just sit around the office, he sits AROUND the office!

9. He fills the baptistry and then turns on the water.  (*funnier if you are Baptist and have baptistry?)

8.  When God said let there be light, God asked him to move.

7. He got in the church bus and made it a lowrider.

6. You have to grease the youth room door to get him into youth group

5. His new I-phone went off and people thought he was backing up

4. You think he accidentally ate one of the Jr. Highers in the confusion of a recent eating game.

3. The Pizza guy has HIS number on speed dial

2. The church had to go back to pews. 

1. He wears a white shirt and he IS the projection screen!

Thursday, January 3, 2013

News U Can Use: "Mom Writes 18 Rules for Son's I-Phone"


Greg Hoffman is a kid who just got an iPhone from his parents. His mom, Janell Hoffman, wrote these [slightly edited] rules for its use:








1. It is my phone. I bought it. I pay for it. I am loaning it to you. Aren't I the greatest?

2. I will always know the password.


3. If it rings, answer it. It is a phone. Say hello, use your manners. Do not ever ignore a phone call if the screen reads "Mom" or "Dad". Not ever.
 

4. Hand the phone to one of your parents promptly at 7:30pm every school night & every weekend night at 9:00pm. It will be shut off for the night and turned on again at 7:30am. If you would not make a call to someone's land line, wherein their parents may answer first, then do not call or text. Listen to those instincts and respect other families like we would like to be respected.
 

5. It does not go to school with you. Have a conversation with the people you text in person. It's a life skill.
 

6. If it falls into the toilet, smashes on the ground, or vanishes into thin air, you are responsible for the replacement costs or repairs.
 

7. Do not use this technology to lie, fool, or deceive another human being. Do not involve yourself in conversations that are hurtful to others. Be a good friend first or stay the hell out of the crossfire.
 

8-9. Do not text, email, or say anything through this device you would not say in person.
 

10. No porn.
 

11. Turn it off, silence it, put it away in public. Especially in a restaurant, at the movies, or while speaking with another human being. You are not a rude person; do not allow the iPhone to change that.
 

12. Do not send or receive pictures of your private parts or anyone else's private parts. Don't laugh. Someday you will be tempted to do this despite your high intelligence. It is risky and could ruin your teenage/college/adult life. It is always a bad idea. Cyberspace is vast and more powerful than you. And it is hard to make anything of this magnitude disappear -- including a bad reputation.
 

13. Don't take a zillion pictures and videos. There is no need to document everything. Live your experiences. They will be stored in your memory for eternity.
 

14. Leave your phone home sometimes and feel safe and secure in that decision. It is not alive or an extension of you. Learn to live without it. Be bigger and more powerful than FOMO -- fear of missing out.
 

15. Download music that is new or classic or different than the millions of your peers that listen to the same exact stuff. Your generation has access to music like never before in history. Take advantage of that gift. Expand your horizons.
 

16. Play a game with words or puzzles or brain teasers every now and then.
 

17. Keep your eyes up. See the world happening around you. Stare out a window. Listen to the birds. Take a walk. Talk to a stranger. Wonder without googling.
 

18. You will mess up. I will take away your phone. We will sit down and talk about it. We will start over again. You & I, we are always learning. I am on your team. We are in this together.
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* Share and Discuss this with your youth group students.  Hand this out to your parents at your next parent meeting.  Use this with your own personal children.  MAYBE....APPLY THEM TO YOURSELF AS A YOUTH PASTOR!!!? 

* From: http://www.nydailynews.com/news/national/mom-attaches-18-point-contract-teen-iphone-article-1.1229991

Tuesday, January 1, 2013

January Featured MS/JH Blog: "PRE-TEEN MINISTRY.NET"



Nick Diliberto is the driving force behind PreteenMinistry.net. After about 9 years of being a preteen pastor, Nick launched the website to provide creative resources for preteen ministries around the world. But the website is much bigger than just him. We’ve got a team of writers, an editor and customer service person (Nancy) who make PreteenMinistry.net what it is today.

PreteenMinistry.net exists to provide cutting edge tools for those leading preteens. Much of the available resources for this age group are  too old or too young for preteens. So, it is our goal to put practical resources in your hands that are proven to be effective. Everything on our website is Biblical, cool, relevant and creative!

CLICK HERE (to get your Pre-Teen Ministry fix) or click one of the great links on the side

January Featured Website: "CREATIVE YOUTH IDEAS""

"Creative Youth Ideas exists to support youth leaders, youth workers, and ministers who don’t have a huge budget or a lot of time to find resources or who live in parts of the world with no access to youth resources. We believe that great ideas can point people to a God that changes lives. It doesn’t matter where you are, which church you’re a part of which denomination you’re in, whether you represent a religious or not-for-profit organization, if you’re young or old, experienced in or new to youth ministry, we want to help you help youth. YOUth are on our heart and YOUth are our ministry."
'- From the Site



CLICK HERE (to check it out for yourself!!)