by Mikaela Foster
I feel love every day. I love my mom, my sisters, my brother, my step dad, my dad, my grandparents, my computer, my phone, Tumblr, my friends and the cast of “Teen Wolf.” Some things I love more than others; if I lost my mom, I’d be absolutely devastated but if I lost my favorite top, I wouldn’t care as much. There are a thousand different types of love, and one of them that I don’t understand is romantic love.
Actually, I understand it fine. What I don’t understand is how my peers feel it. Sure, we’re 13. All of us – well, SOME OF US – are completely love crazy and hormonal. The dating pool is outrageous. But can a 13-year-old really feel true love? I don’t think so.
There’s something I don’t get about a 13-year-old couple saying they love each other. In my school, I’m considered an “LG” (little girl), because not having your first kiss in eighth grade makes you immature. I’ve had a sizable amount of people ask me since moving here if I have, and my reply is always the same: why would I be dwelling over kissing someone when I could be focusing on more important things? I don’t tell them that these important things include maintaining a blog. Other kids, though, are getting into new relationships every week. I see wall posts on Facebook from couples that haven’t even been dating a full 24 hours, saying “I can’t live without you babe, I love you so much!” This is the thing that truly baffles me. How can you live without someone that you haven’t even lived with for more than a day? How can you love someone that you haven’t even been with for more than a day?
Social media is an assh**e. It makes us kids feel like we NEED to tell everyone how we’re feeling. So if a girl who’s officially been in a relationship for roughly 2 hours and 3 minutes (she’s been keeping count) sees that her friend posted on her boyfriend’s wall “I love you!”, OBVIOUSLY she has to write the same thing on her boyfriend’s wall. Because that’s what she believes.
Everyone’s tossing “love” around like it’s nothing. It may be for attention, it may be to make someone jealous, they may even think that they are in love. They don’t truly understand what love is. Isn’t love something you start to feel over time? It’s not the same thing as liking someone. They’re treating the real concept of love like nothing. Just because you’re in a relationship, it doesn’t mean you love them. I wouldn’t know anything about what it’s like to actually be in love, but it’s not something that happens overnight.
I just don’t know anything about love because I’ve never experienced it like that. The only person I’ve ever been in love with is my computer… Does that count?
Mikaela Foster is 13 and lives in Portland, OR. In her free time, she likes watching My So Called Life but lets face it - she's too busy perfecting her Hannah Montana imitation.