Monday, February 13, 2012

The Other "F" Word (part 2): Review and Study

I was recently asked to write a review and also a study for the movie The Other F Word, after my recent post (The Other F Word--Father) about the movie. After finally getting the movie I had an opportunity to watch it and was blown away.  As you will see below and can imagine it is not the usually youth ministry resource movie, but well worth a watch for nothing else but your own reflection and enrichment.

Here is a quick trailer for the movie...

Here is my review and study reflection for Youth Worker:

This DVD is way outside the usually youth ministry box in fact it takes the box, throws it down and stomps on it.  The Other F Word is a documentary that follows the heroes of the punk rock movement, the quintessential poster boys for rebellion and anti-authoritarians, as they become fathers.  This movie’s main storyline follows Jim Lindberg, lead singer of Pennywise, as he discusses his struggles and shares his role as a father. The movie also steps in the lives of other famous punk rocker fathers like Mark Hoppus (Blink-182), Flea (Red Hot Chili Peppers), Art Alexakis (Everclear), and even skateboarder Tony Hawk, along with many others.
            This movie is funny, moving and powerful.  Although laced with strong profanity it is touching and extremely real. This may not be the first movie you would grab when you think about fatherhood, but it will be the last one you will ever forget.  Moments like Everclear’s, Art Alexakis playing his famous song “Father of Mine”, weaved with the story of his own childhood and his resolution to be different kind of father is just an example of why this movie is so great. 
            This movie is packed full of short clips, quotes, and interview that would fit best in and adult setting like your next youth ministry meeting or parenting class. Be warned you will need to keep your finger on the mute button or the old TV Guardian on high alert.  This movie, because of the amount of language may not be the best choice for your students, depending on your context.  It does however cover many great topics like community, discipline, death, priorities, ethics, forgiveness, love, responsibility and masculinity in some very fresh new ways. It also includes a great conversation about extended adolescents that may serve as a great addition to current research that is being discussed in youth ministry.
            Start to finish your view of fatherhood will be literally rocked.  From the opening scenes getting to know each of the fathers to the final moments as Jim Lindberg decides to put this family first and quits Pennywise after 20 years of touring, I can say honestly I really enjoyed this movie.

THE REFLECTION: Discussion Question and Study:
  • What is the first thing that comes to your mind when you hear the word “Father”? How about the name “Daddy”?
  • Who are some of the celebrities that have just recently became fathers?  How do you think they will do as fathers?
  • Make a list of 5 things that would describe your own father?
  • What is cultures view of fathers and fatherhood? Think about sitcoms, cartoons, and movies.
  • Listen to this quote: “So many people tell their kids, I gave you life so you need to listen to me’, but to me my kids gave me a life, so I want to learn from them.”  Is it possible that God has allowed you to be a parent not so that you can teach yours kids holiness, but in order for them to teach you about holiness?
  • Listen to this quote: “Maybe changing the world is not about writing a better punk song, but being a better parent.  Maybe what is going to change the world is people being better parents.” What do you think about that quote?

Look up and See: what does the Bible says about Fatherhood:
    • Deut. 6:4-8
    • Prov. 23:24
    • Luke 11:11-13
    • Eph. 6:4, Col. 3:21

  • Even though the men presented in this movie are not or do not claim faith, do you see them living out some of the Biblical truths?
  • As a parent after watching this movie and then reading the passages, what are the main challenges for you?
  • One of the main topics that we presented in this movie and also is part of the Biblical instructions is the idea of “Being Present”?  What does that mean for you? How is that a struggle in our society for fathers (and parents)?
  • What is one challenge you can take away from this movie and study?